How to Heal When You’re the Strong One

When Strength Starts to Feel Heavy

Let me say something to all my fellow “strong ones”: just because we’re strong doesn’t mean we’re made of steel. We get tired too. We get discouraged. And yes — we replay conversations in our heads, wondering if we should’ve spoken up more or stayed quiet.

There are days I don’t feel like praying — but I do anyway. Nights I cry in the shower so nobody hears me. Mornings I turn on worship music not because I feel holy, but because I don’t.

God meets me there — every time.

Strength Doesn’t Mean Silence

Being strong isn’t about never hurting — it’s about knowing where to take your hurt. I take mine to Jesus. When I don’t have the words. When I feel numb. When I want to quit everything and disappear under a new name and a new haircut. (Just kidding… kind of.)

But seriously — you’re not alone. If you’re the strong one, this is your reminder: you’re allowed to need God too. You don’t have to hold it all together. You’re not a robot. You’re human. A loved, called, chosen, soft-on-the-inside human.

Your Healing Starts with Rest

If you’re nodding your head right now, feeling like “Whew… this was for me,” I made something just for you:

💛 The Strong One’s Safe Place: A 7-Day Guided Journal

This free journal is your space to finally be still. To write what you can’t say out loud. To cry, pray, breathe, and let God hold the parts of you you always cover up.

✨ Inside you’ll find:

• Scripture-based journal prompts
• Mini prayers for when you don’t have the words
• Gentle reminders that you are not alone

Once you grab it, you’ll also get a few short, encouraging emails from me with bonus voice notes, Scriptures, and reflections I don’t post anywhere else.

Because being the strong one doesn’t mean being the silent one.
Let’s heal together. Let’s breathe together. Let’s be held together.

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